Difficult Simplicity

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Difficult Simplicity Those are two words that don’t seem to go together, but there is a profound truth within them.

Because…. There appears to be nothing more difficult than to convince us humans that the real answers to our burning questions are easy.

They are so easy, in fact, that even when we hear them, we cannot imagine that they actually ARE the answers.

And so, we run thru life chasing our tails, beating our heads against immovable walls, and insisting upon swimming against the tide for decades.

All the time we’re doing this, we are absolutely sure that we are going in the right direction, making it impossible for anyone to convince us to step off the hamster wheel.

I was right there, dizzy with everyone else, until I got thrown off by outside forces.

Thank God!

I never would have known to stop. Difficulty and complexity were, after all, the way to become successful. Or so I thought.

That must be the reason so many people look at me blankly when I tell them my favorite all time quote.

“Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.”   Teilhard de Chardin

Chardin was a Jesuit Priest, born in the 1800s. He obviously stepped off the hamster wheel at some point, himself.

He looked back and saw how we chase after, analyze and try to control everything in the outside world, when the real authentic power is that of love.

If we could give up our silly struggles and first embody love, the fire of passion would light the simple path to fulfillment.

I’ll be Satisfied When….

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We are always looking to the future when we get the new car, the kids are all in school, when we get a bigger house….   Then we will be happy.

The problem is not your present situation that keeps you looking forward to a more perfect time. It is your perspective.

When your mind is anywhere besides this present moment, you are off the track to happiness.

We’ve all heard the saying, ‘The joy is in the journey.’

But let’s face it. We think of that saying as just happy little words instead of the profound truth that it actually is.

When I’m on a relaxed Sunday ride through the countryside it is an entirely different experience than driving down that same road on the way to work. Everything is exactly the same except my attitude.

In one I am enjoying the journey and in the other am not even noticing it.

In order to experience all that each precious moment has to offer, we have to actually take the time to notice that moment.

When you see the blessings of today, you stop thinking ‘when’.

“The trick to getting the life you want is to love the life you actually already have.” The Baglady

Skeptical?

Even if you don’t think your life is perfect, there are parts of it that are. So, rather than dwelling on the shortcomings, focus on the good things. You’ll see very quickly that more and more good will emerge.

Put a New Spin on your Old Story

Never be discouraged

 

Are you one of those people who continue to beat yourself up about things of the past?

It’s time to stop that nonsense.

 

 

“Never be discouraged about your past. You may not fully realize all you have learned from it. Those who have weathered the largest storms are most able to understand how to help those who struggle. You have a rare and unique gift to offer the world.” The Baglady

It’s time to look at those old events as valued experiences for your present and future success.

Having grown up in a loving family, physical abuse was never part of my experience. I was unsympathetic to anyone who would put up with bad treatment. My thought was, “Get out!”

Imagine my surprise when I found myself in an abusive relationship and could not leave? My friends begged me and continually worried for my safety. Of course, I had my reasons (like all abused people do) for putting up with it.

While I was in the situation, it seemed like there were 2 voices in my head fighting with one another. The old me kept yelling “Get out.” The abused me found so many reasons why leaving seemed impossible.

Long story short, I finally escaped. But I also learned so much from the experience. I’m much more understanding and compassionate now.

Instead of beating yourself up for your past, what did you learn? How are you better for it?

The answers to those questions are now part of the gifts you can share with others.

The Wisdom of OZ – Simple Yet Profound

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Remember that line from the Wizard of Oz?

It was right before Dorothy and the others discovered that the ‘great and powerful wizard’ was just an ordinary man with no special powers.

However, he was able to give Dorothy the information that would lead her home.

It was Dorothy’s job to summon up the smallest amount of faith, click her heels three times, and get home.

So, I would say…. “Pay no attention to any discouraging news of the day.”

It does not have to be your fate.

Even if you have mismanaged your personal life, career, or finances in the past, you can still find your way home.

It will take a little more that 3 clicks of your heels.

However, as you follow simple instructions and are willing to change your mind, you will be surprised how quickly you will see improvement in all aspects of your life.

Realize that you are the biggest factor in your life.

Attitude is everything. Start changing your mind about your trials.

See them as stepping stones to your upcoming successes.

There is power in the written word. So, start a journal. Write in it every day.

Include

The things you are most grateful for

The things you most want to see in your life

The things you need God to help you with

The help you need will be there. I promise.

So, go ahead and click your heels together three times…. right before you find a notebook and start to take these life changing steps today.

Dina Dove

The Shocking Truth…
You are going 100 mph in the wrong direction and have no idea why things are not working out according to plan.
This 10 minute exercise will show you

where you have lost focus and help you reconnect with the passion that will…
…get you back on the right track.

http://dinadove.com/findyourfocus.html

 

Truth and Consequences

What if, your life was actually a movie playing out in front of you to show you the consequences of your thoughts and actions?

Just imagine that possibility for a moment.

Then take a quick look at it from the standpoint of it being your movie. Kind of a cool idea, huh?

And further….. what if your life really was that? Would you be happy with your movie?

What genre would you categorize it in? Drama? Suspense? Horror? Romance? Family rated?

If you are not completely satisfied with what is playing out in front of you, it’s never too late you switch your category.

The truth is, the life you see out in front of you starts with your mind. But most of us think that it is our exterior circumstances that are causing everything we see ‘out there.’

You can see what an endless and frustrating merry-go-round a person can be on always hoping that their life will change so that they can finally be happy.. When, in fact, their life/ their movie only transforms by them finding more peace and satisfaction inside themselves.

This isn’t an easy change… but that is only because the real truth runs so counter to what we have believed all our lives. As you gather your belief around you, and give it a try, you will see subtle changes that will help you ‘change your mind’.

We’ve all heard “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

The truth really is that…. “When you believe it, you will see it.”

BELIEVE!
_____________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

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Are You Waiting for Perfection?

Here’s a story that might alter your point of view.

Many years ago, in an episode of Lou Grant, the paper’s editor, upon finding that his elderly mother did not have long to live, went home to spend her last days with her.

As he paced around in her bedroom, he was lamenting the fact that he had always hoped to find the perfect time to take her on a wonderful trip, just the two of them. And now they would not be able to go.

She sweetly motioned for him to come over and sit beside her and told him that he was living his life and that was exactly what she had wanted him to do. She added that he had been the perfect son for her and that she was satisfied with her life.

And then she told him a story that I’ve never forgotten.

She reminded him about his father who had passed years before…

“Do you remember how your father used to pack a picnic lunch and we’d head off to the ocean? Your dad so wanted to find the perfect place with the perfect view for our lunch. And we would drive and drive. There were lots of beautiful places, but he wanted to find the perfect place. Hours would pass. I’d suggest, “Why don’t we stop here?”

But your dad would respond that he wanted to wait for the perfect spot.  With all the places we could have stopped, none were perfect enough for our picnic. Late in the day we ended up eating our picnic in the car as the sun was getting ready to set, never having stopped, because he never found the perfect place.

And then she focused back on her son, “My life has been wonderful. I couldn’t ask for a better son. I do not need to go on that trip. Just sit with me here and let’s enjoy the time we have right now.”

Don’t miss the beauty of the life you have right here, right now, while you are busy looking for some other situation or some other time when things will be perfect.

Change your perception and find the perfection in the present moment.

____________________________________________________________Dina Dove

The Perfect Career – Guaranteed!

Before you seek contentment in any other career, it is important to realize that your most important work is to be happy, contented, grateful and generous.

When you master these standards as your first priority, you will succeed at anything you choose to do. Without these, nothing you choose to do in life will feel like real success in the end.

Here are a few guidelines to help you get there.

Take time to count your blessings. By daily focusing on what is ‘right in your world’,  you automatically attract more good into your life.

What you focus on expands.

Quiet the voices in your head that say you’re not good enough, not smart enough, or any other defeatist balderdash.  Drown them out with positive thoughts and affirmations.

Surround yourself with upbeat people. Your mind will have the additional source of input that will help keep you on track.

Focus on the negative, you attract more to you.

Focus on the positive and your life improves.

Give of yourself to things you feel passionate about. Let the simple joy of giving be your intent. Have no concern for getting something in return.  When you are generous with your time and talents, it creates a space that must be filled.

Focus on giving and the Universe gives back to you in surprising and wonderful ways.

As you keep all these things in mind, make strides toward what you desire.  That movement forward demonstrates what is important to you. It is another powerful form of focus.

The result? True Success in life and career.

________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

www.dinadove.com

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Carts Before Horses

Early on, as many people do, I choose a career path that would bring me wealth, give a great lifestyle and a degree of notoriety. I thought money, comfort and fame were the answers.

They weren’t!

Now I know that, just like the insanity of having the cart ahead of the horse, I had my life out of order.

I thought I had to first DO something

So I could HAVE what I wanted

And then I would BE happy.

But my priorities led to years of sacrifice only to find that real satisfaction starts with figuring our first who you are.

Who did I want to BE inside?

If I had known that upfront, inner passion for my life’s purpose would have been driving the train. Passion is the ultimate motivator.

From that passion I would have chosen a path that was in line with who I am instead of driven by money and fame.  Now there is nothing at all wrong with money or fame. However, the best situation would be for them to be a by-product of my passion instead of visa versa.

If my passion had been at the fore front of my life choices, instead of dropping out at age forty to find the meaning of my life, I would have been living it in every step I took from the very beginning.

Now that the power of my passion is the symbolic horse leading the way, it carries me to where I need to go and I am able to enjoy life every day.

The joy truly is in the journey.
______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide

It was Too Good to be True

Have you ever felt that way? You see a miracle product, someone gives you a simple solution or something goes just a little too easy and….. you wait for the fall.

It just CANT be that easy!

Well, I know what you mean.

Several years ago, I had a personal trainer. She was killing me. The diet was boring and I was starving. The workout was brutal. The thing I remember most was the 45 minutes a day on the elliptical at a heart rate of 145 beats per minute. Worse still was the fact that I was not losing any weight.

With all the effort I was putting in, I could not accept that there could be an easier way because all of my supreme effort could not budge the scale.

One day I saw an infomercial (ugh) for the 6 Week Body Makeover. It promised that, without ever getting my heart rate above 109, I could lose the weight in 6 Weeks. It also said I could eat, basically, all the time and would never go hungry. Best yet, since I knew there was no way it could work, it had a 60 day money back guarantee.
I bought it only to prove it was a scam.

Knowing that it is unfair to prove something to be unworkable unless you follow the program to the letter, I did everything it said. At the pace I normally walk, my heart rate pushed 115, so I even had to ‘meander’ or ‘dilly dally’ on my 45 – 60 minute required walk each day, all this after torturing on that dang elliptical. I religiously forced myself to eat every 3 hours. (That was really hard to do.) After the first couple of days, I found myself thinking, “Not again. Already????” But I followed instructions and ate.

In the first 2 weeks, eleven pounds had melted off me without ever breaking a sweat.

Some things that seem ‘too good to be true’ are the most ‘true’ things in the whole universe.

_____________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide