Think about all the personalities we employ as we go about the days and years of our lives.
For most of us there is the daughter, the employee, the mom and the wife. Or the husband, father, employer, brother, etc.
There are also more complex versions of all of us that we employ based on the circumstance and our frame of mind at the time.
Some show us who we want to be more of and others give us a view into our… well… let’s call it our “self improvement needed” side.
I’ve recently had an extended encounter with my ‘Over Accommodating’ persona.
Those who hire ,e can get a very good idea of the subject matter of my talks by first reading The Baglady’s Guide to Elegant Living or taking my on-line courses.
A running theme throughout my work is that of figuring out who you really are and living from that place.
As I prepared to work with a new group, it was requested that I put in writing what I would say. Trying to be accommodating, I did that.
They had other requirements of what I needed to include and so I added and rearranged. We were working back and forth for quite some time, and I was beginning to be concerned that in order to meet the restrictions I would either have to memorize or read my talk.
That is certainly different than my normal presentation method, but I wanted to be cooperative.
As restrictions became overwhelming, I started dragging my feet. It affected all my productivity and enthusiasm. Not on just that presentation, but on my work in general.
Something just didn’t feel right and I found myself doing everything I could think of to avoid my work.
I finally realized what had gone wrong. I’d lost my way, forgotten who I was.
The ‘Over Accommodating’ personality had descended upon me like a thief in the night.
A round peg doesn’t fit into a square hole, but we can sure wear ourselves out trying.
All it took was remembering my true self and recognizing that I was out of alignment. Once able to see the problem, I got back on the right track. Immediately things changed.