Most of us are actually living someone else’s idea of what is right or wrong.
Think about it for a minute. Your family and peers have had a great deal of influence over everything you think today.
It only takes pondering a few ‘facts of life’ to see the truth in it.
Junk food or health food?
High school, trade school, college degree, graduate studies?
How often should you change the sheets on your bed?
Community college, state university, ivy league school?
Resort vacations or camping?
Driving or flying?
Wal-Mart, Target, Macy’s or Bloomingdale’s?
Those early childhood and school experiences do influence us into adult life. Unless you actually look directly at your influences, you are basically living the dreams, thoughts, and norms of the people you have surrounded yourself with.
In the past, these people helped us set a basis for life as they saw it.
By becoming conscious of your influences, you start to have an opportunity to consider which ones are in alignment with the real you and which ones no longer fit.
No one completely escapes the pull of other people’s expectations.
And there is no denying that it does take a degree of personal fortitude to take in all those opinions of who you should be in the world while still attempting to strike the perfect balance of what will also work for you.
There isn’t a person alive who hasn’t been swayed by other people.
Your parents have expectations. So have your friends, co-workers, siblings and even the person behind you in the checkout line.
We all want the other people in our lives to be happy. And many of us, for most of our lives want them to be happy even if it means that we compromise what we want for what they think we should want.
So what do you do?
It’s good, first of all, to acknowledge how your early choices have been made.
New awareness gives you a chance to take another look at those choices. Assess what serves you well and make changes to those things that are no longer in alignment with the new, more enlightened, You.