Are You Waiting for Perfection?

Here’s a story that might alter your point of view.

Many years ago, in an episode of Lou Grant, the paper’s editor, upon finding that his elderly mother did not have long to live, went home to spend her last days with her.

As he paced around in her bedroom, he was lamenting the fact that he had always hoped to find the perfect time to take her on a wonderful trip, just the two of them. And now they would not be able to go.

She sweetly motioned for him to come over and sit beside her and told him that he was living his life and that was exactly what she had wanted him to do. She added that he had been the perfect son for her and that she was satisfied with her life.

And then she told him a story that I’ve never forgotten.

She reminded him about his father who had passed years before…

“Do you remember how your father used to pack a picnic lunch and we’d head off to the ocean? Your dad so wanted to find the perfect place with the perfect view for our lunch. And we would drive and drive. There were lots of beautiful places, but he wanted to find the perfect place. Hours would pass. I’d suggest, “Why don’t we stop here?”

But your dad would respond that he wanted to wait for the perfect spot.  With all the places we could have stopped, none were perfect enough for our picnic. Late in the day we ended up eating our picnic in the car as the sun was getting ready to set, never having stopped, because he never found the perfect place.

And then she focused back on her son, “My life has been wonderful. I couldn’t ask for a better son. I do not need to go on that trip. Just sit with me here and let’s enjoy the time we have right now.”

Don’t miss the beauty of the life you have right here, right now, while you are busy looking for some other situation or some other time when things will be perfect.

Change your perception and find the perfection in the present moment.

____________________________________________________________Dina Dove

The Flat Earth Remained Round

You know, I think back to the time when it was the common belief that the world was flat. Everyone thought that, but their thinking did not change the earth. It remained round.

In that same vein, if we, for a moment give up our limiting beliefs, we can possibly look up to see a bigger God.

Instead of assuming that God thinks like us, maybe we could fathom that he loves us all; the Christians, the Atheists, Buddhists, Jews, Muslims.  Maybe he loves us all exactly the same, with a pure love that knows no restrictions. And that he is always plugging for us, hoping we all learn to love each other like he loves us. Unconditionally.

If you think of us as all being God’s kids, then he, as a parent, loves us no matter what we think.

I have 6 God children. They are each very different, some right now are Christians, some do not see God through that prism.  I’m so proud of most of them, but one is not operating in a responsible manner right now.

I’m not God so I’m having trouble with that. But if I take a moment to think more clearly, I know that God still loves her completely no matter what she does.  And….that my job is not to judge.

Mine is only to love. And if I am to follow the example of what Jesus came to teach, I need to love her even more.

 ___________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

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What Language are you Speaking?

While in Florida, I spent time with my second cousin, Dee Dee,  and her family. As soon as I arrived we started talking non-stop.  In the past we’d never really had time to sit and just visit one on one.

I was delighted with how much both of us were enjoying the conversation. Clearly, something about us, and the way we like to communicate, was very compatible.

It wasn’t very long before the 5 Love Languages came up. As it turns out, Dee Dee and I have the same love language; meaning that we both feel most loved and most loving when we are spending quality time with another person.

Since I’m a writer, my work is fairly solitary. I sit in front of a computer with my own thoughts most of the time. But, since I’m also a coach, when I’m with a client, helping them find solutions  to their life, career, or business problems, I’m totally in my element, doing the thing that brings the most joy to my soul.

In this hustle bustle world, much of the melancholy and rampant need for antidepressants can be attributed to the fact that people do not feel heard. One on one connection is the first thing to go when the time restraints of work, family and financial stress take over a person’s life.

Added to that is another very important loss in their lives. As a result of all the pressure, people often lose the ability to hear the wisdom of their own inner voice.

Like the rejuvenating experience of talking with another kindred spirit, learning to listen to the yearnings of your soul will actually deliver you from the craziness.  And yet, for so many it is the hardest place to look.

The right coach can help you when you seem unable to connect and lead you out of the dark. By listening, she’ll hear your heart within the story you tell and help you discover the path that will lead you back to peace.

Shine a light on your life. Try Coaching!

______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

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The Perfect Career – Guaranteed!

Before you seek contentment in any other career, it is important to realize that your most important work is to be happy, contented, grateful and generous.

When you master these standards as your first priority, you will succeed at anything you choose to do. Without these, nothing you choose to do in life will feel like real success in the end.

Here are a few guidelines to help you get there.

Take time to count your blessings. By daily focusing on what is ‘right in your world’,  you automatically attract more good into your life.

What you focus on expands.

Quiet the voices in your head that say you’re not good enough, not smart enough, or any other defeatist balderdash.  Drown them out with positive thoughts and affirmations.

Surround yourself with upbeat people. Your mind will have the additional source of input that will help keep you on track.

Focus on the negative, you attract more to you.

Focus on the positive and your life improves.

Give of yourself to things you feel passionate about. Let the simple joy of giving be your intent. Have no concern for getting something in return.  When you are generous with your time and talents, it creates a space that must be filled.

Focus on giving and the Universe gives back to you in surprising and wonderful ways.

As you keep all these things in mind, make strides toward what you desire.  That movement forward demonstrates what is important to you. It is another powerful form of focus.

The result? True Success in life and career.

________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

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Carts Before Horses

Early on, as many people do, I choose a career path that would bring me wealth, give a great lifestyle and a degree of notoriety. I thought money, comfort and fame were the answers.

They weren’t!

Now I know that, just like the insanity of having the cart ahead of the horse, I had my life out of order.

I thought I had to first DO something

So I could HAVE what I wanted

And then I would BE happy.

But my priorities led to years of sacrifice only to find that real satisfaction starts with figuring our first who you are.

Who did I want to BE inside?

If I had known that upfront, inner passion for my life’s purpose would have been driving the train. Passion is the ultimate motivator.

From that passion I would have chosen a path that was in line with who I am instead of driven by money and fame.  Now there is nothing at all wrong with money or fame. However, the best situation would be for them to be a by-product of my passion instead of visa versa.

If my passion had been at the fore front of my life choices, instead of dropping out at age forty to find the meaning of my life, I would have been living it in every step I took from the very beginning.

Now that the power of my passion is the symbolic horse leading the way, it carries me to where I need to go and I am able to enjoy life every day.

The joy truly is in the journey.
______________________________________________________________Dina Dove

As an author, inspirational speaker, and coach, I am dedicated to helping people remember who they really are at their deepest core and discover their unique path to career and personal fulfillment.

For further information, please contact me at support@DinaDove.com

www.dinadove.com

http://www.facebook.com/BagladysGuide